Unit 3: Intimate Relationships

Ie: Most attractive most likely to survive and therefore reproduce for generations (Costa,2020)

Mate selection is decided based on sexual selection (Costa, 2020)

Sexual selection is done to ensure the procreation and survival of children (Costa, 2020)

Ie: Women are attracted to good providers (Costa, 2020)

Ie: Men are attracted to fertile women
Various physical preferences (Costa, 2020)

Ie: Similarities in appearance, age, race, religion, education and socio-economic status (Costa, 2020)

Social values (Costa, 2020)

Cultural Values (Costa, 2020)

Economic values (Costa, 2020)

Live similar lifestyles (Costa, 2020)

This theory supports the idea of “love at first sight” (Costa, 2020)

This theory states that attraction is based on an individual’s image of the “ideal mate” (Costa, 2020)

ie: of the physical appearance (Costa, 2020)

cultural factors (Costa, 2020)

socio-economic factors they value (Costa, 2020)

Differnt life experiences (Costa, 2020)

The way a person was raised (Costa, 2020)

When people analyse the pros and cons of being in that relationship. (Costa, 2020)

The process where individuals select partners whose needs are opposite and complementary to their own. (Costa, 2020)

This is done so that the partner can fulfill needs and gaps that the individual may have. (Costa, 2020)

Ie: A quiet individual seeking a relationship with a louder and extroverted person (Costa, 2020)

To feel comfortable around your partner. (Costa, 2020)

To feel comfortable discussing problems or concerns in a relationship. (Costa, 2020)

To discuss things that are important to you or your relationship. (Costa, 2020)

To ask each other what you’re thinking and feeling and you listen to each other. (Costa, 2020)

Gaining respect and support each other (Costa, 2020)

Respecting everyone’s boundaries to not make anyone uncomfortable. (Costa, 2020)

The ability to feel safe with someone and rely on someone (Costa, 2020)

Trust includes believing that someone will be honest with you and keep their promises. (Costa, 2020)

Feeling threatened is an example of an unhealth relationships (Costa, 2020)

Both partners should safe emotional and physical (Costa, 2020)

your partner pushes you, hits you or destroys your things. (Costa, 2020)

your partner tells you what to do, what to wear or who to hang out with. They constantly check up on you or use threats to make you do things. (Costa, 2020)

your partner calls you names, puts you down or makes you feel bad in front of others. (Costa, 2020)

your partner gets angry easily and you don’t know what will set them off. You feel like you’re walking on eggshells. (Costa, 2020)

your partner pushes you to do things you don’t want to do or aren’t ready for, including sex or using drugs and alcohol. They don’t take “no” for an answer and they use threats or ultimatums. (Costa, 2020)

try to speak calmly, no matter how upset they may be. (Costa, 2020)

Explain your feelings rather than blame or accuse the other person. (Costa, 2020)

Good approach to the situation: “I felt hurt and embarrassed (Costa, 2020)

Bad approach to the situation: “You think I’m an idiot.” (Costa, 2020)

Shows what the desired change is. The goal is for a solution rather than winning the argument. (Costa, 2020)

when tempers are hot, take a break. Suggest that you talk about it in a day or two, after you’ve both had time to cool off and think. (Costa, 2020)

Family Life Cycle Frame work

Normal crises include (Costa, 2020)

adjustment to marriage (Costa, 2020)

Giving birth to a child (Costa, 2020)

Teenage dilemmas that come with having children (Costa, 2020)

Children leaving home or moving out (Costa, 2020)

Retirement of parents (Costa, 2020)

Growing old together (Costa, 2020)

Non normative crises include (Costa, 2020)

Unemployment or being laid off of work (Costa, 2020)

Infertility, the inability to have children (Costa, 2020)

Illness, causing financial issues and emotional distress (Costa, 2020)

Infidelity, causing family conflicts such as divorce (Costa, 2020)

Conflicts are natural in relationships and include issues that a couple faces together (Costa, 2020)

Balancing job and family (Costa, 2020)

Frequency of sexual relations (Costa, 2020)

Debt brought into marriage (Costa, 2020)

Financial situation (Costa, 2020)

Household tasks (Costa, 2020)

Emotional Intimacy (Costa, 2020)

Intellectual Intimacy (Costa, 2020)

Social Intimacy (Costa, 2020)

Sexual Intimacy (Costa, 2020)

Recreational Intimacy (Costa, 2020)

Same sex marriage

Common law marriage

Polygamy

Division of labour

Men often financially provide for the family

Women often care for children and do household work

Single parent families

Remarriage

Responsibilities behind family law

Separation and divorce

In 1950

In 1960 - 1970

In 2008

Express opinions and being openly honest with each other (Costa, 2020)

Focusing on the issue at hand and taking on one problem at a time (Costa, 2020)

Trying to understand the other person’s perspective. (Costa, 2020)

Recognize your own influence on the interaction and the other person’s response (Costa, 2020)

Responding and communicating with a positive attitude (Costa, 2020)

being open to reaching a compromise by negotiating a solution that suits both people (Costa, 2020)

Having similar values (Costa, 2020)

Enjoying similar fun activities (Costa, 2020)

Having a balance of power in the relationship (Costa, 2020)

Both partners having the ability to make decisions (Costa, 2020)

Having a common friend group or common interests (Costa, 2020)

Having an active social life together (Costa, 2020)

In 2015, about 92,000 Canadian citizens were victims of intimate partner violence, representing 28% of all victims of police-reported violent crime. (Burczycka, 2015)

79% victims of intimate partner violence were women. (Burczycka, 2015)

Being victimized by an intimate partner was the most common form of police-reported violent crime committed against women. (Burczycka, 2015)

42% of women reported feeling victimized compared to 12% of men.(Burczycka, 2015)

More men relative to females were victimized by a friend or an acquaintance. (Burczycka, 2015)

40% of men compared to 28% of women have been victimized by a friend. (Burczycka, 2015)

36% of women compared to 15% of men have been victimized by a stranger. (Burczycka, 2015)

Violence within dating relationships was more common than violence within spousal relationships. (Burczycka, 2015)

A current or former dating partner was the perpetrator against 54% of intimate partner violence victims, (Burczycka, 2015)

Police have reported that 34% of reported violence happens in current dating partner and 32% in current married couples (Burczycka, 2015)

The rate of intimate partner physical assault is the most common type of police-reported intimate partner violence. (Burczycka, 2015)

It has increased slightly between 2014 and 2015 by 2%, from 231 to 235 victims per a population of 100,000. (Burczycka, 2015)

Since 2010 the rate of this kind of intimate partner violence has declined by 8%. (Burczycka, 2015)

In 2015 the rate of intimate partner sexual assaults was 7% higher than in 2014. (Burczycka, 2015)

The rate of intimate partner sexual assault was 36 times higher among women than men (Burczycka, 2015)

With there being 18 female victims per 100,000 and 1 male victim per 100,000. (Burczycka, 2015)

The rate of intimate partner homicide decreased by 6% between 2014 and 2015, continuing a decades-long trend of decline. (Burczycka, 2015)

The largest decrease in intimate partner homicides can be seen among male victims. (Burczycka, 2015)

Women have always been higher risk of intimate partner homicide, with a rate about five times higher than that of men in 2015. (Burczycka, 2015)

With about 5 female victims to every 1 male victim per every million people. (Burczycka, 2015)

Between 2005 and 2015, 74% of the acts of violence between partners was committed by a current or former legally married or common-law spouse. (Burczycka, 2015)

For women, the lowest risk of intimate partner homicide was found in those aged 65 and over at a rate of 2 victims per million. (Burczycka, 2015)

Female victims in an older age group were 14 times more likely to be victims of intimate partner homicide. (Burczycka, 2015)

The gap of risk between females and males was smallest among those aged 55 to 59. (Burczycka, 2015)