I Group

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Container Agreements Confidentiality: What we do here stays here. We agree that the work we do here is confidential and while we are at liberty to share our own experiences outside this training, we will not make any reference to a person's work during or after the training without their consent. Safety: Do we all agree to: ​I will do no harm to myself or others. This includes physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and energetic safety. Time Commitment:​ 2h - 2.5hrsNo giving ​unsolicited ​advice ​or feedback. No rescuing ​or fixing. I speak with the I statement (Try not using the you statement)

The goal is to have us paying attention to our feelings.

The goal of the lover round is to connect with self and others. Name - animal name - Mission- feeling Feelings are:Mad - Sad - Glad - Shame - Guilty - Fear

Warrior round - Accountability1- Self accountability I'm I accountable to myself?Thumb up or down - Process with thumb down2 - Support accountability. I'm I accountable to the people around me?Thumb up or down - Process with thumb down3- Charges and clearing I am looking in other men eyes, I'm I feeling a positive or a negative charge against any man in the group?If a charge is present, proceed to clearing. Self-Accountability and Support AccountabilityRecipe CardThese are Warrior Round processes so the Facilitator should invite the Man Working to be concise and direct with his responses.Self-AccountabilityOptionsI’m in integrity with my agreements.  (No further processing necessary)I’m out of integrity with my agreements. For a man who is out of integrity, invite him to choose a facilitator and run the Accountability process.Self-Accountability ScriptWhat’s the agreement you made? (If they can’t name an agreement, end process)Did you keep that agreement? (If “yes,” end process)What’s one specific thing you chose to do instead of keeping your agreement?What do you think the impact of your choice is on others?What’s the impact of your choice on yourself?Is this a pattern in your life?What’s the shadow, the belief about yourself or others, that fueled your decision to make and then break this agreement?And what’s the truth about you that’s hidden or repressed by <the man's shadow>?How can you anchor and express <the man’s truth> right now?What can you do differently the next time you’re in a situation like this?What’s a stretch you can make to deepen your expression of <the man’s truth>?Who will you check in with once that’s complete?Are you complete for now?Support AccountabilitySupport Accountability Script“No” is an acceptable response to any of these questions and ends the process.Are you open to Support Accountability from me?Did you agree to [agreement you believe he made]? Did you keep that agreement? (“Yes” ends the process rather than “no”)Do you choose to hold yourself accountable with a Self-Accountability process?Choose a facilitator.Add clearing script Clearing Recipe CardNote:  Sometimes clearings in the Warrior Round are reserved for other men in the circle and clearings with men outside the circle are held until the Magician Round. Alternatively, all Clearings can be done in the Warrior Round; it’s up to the I-Group and King that evening to make that choice.Setting up the Clearing1. Who do you have a charge with? 2.   Ask that man: Are you willing to hold a shield and be a mirror for this man? The man has several choices:He can be the Mirror.He can decline to be the Mirror and stay in the Zoom room in which the clearing is taking place.He can leave the Zoom room, ideally going into a breakout room with another man to support him, until the Clearing is complete.If he declines to be the Mirror, have the man doing the Clearing pick another man and get his agreement to be the Mirror.3. Use Zoom Fishbowl so only the Facilitator, Man Working and Mirror are seen.4. Do either of you want support? 5. Have a man that isn’t in the process scribe the judgments and feelings.6. Say to the Mirror: Set your psychic boundary, your warrior shield, to protect yourself here. Are you clear that this isn’t about you and that you’re acting as a mirror for this man? Wait for acknowledgement.7. Ask the man with the charge: Do you acknowledge that this is your work and that the Mirror is here to support you? Only proceed if you get a clear yes.8. After you get a yes, tell the man with the charge: Because the man you’re clearing with has a strong shield, the fullness of what you’re feeling is welcome here. Bring it all!The Clearing1. Data Tell this man the data;  what you saw or heard, just the facts. Data must be objectively verifiable; something you could record with a video or audio tape. Have him say, The Data is… before each individual piece of data. Be sure he’s using “you” statements addressed to the Mirror.2. Judgments  Say to the Man Working: Tell this man your judgments. Say, “[Mirror’s name] I judge... before each judgment. Ask questions to deepen the man’s experience of his judgment with questions like, What kind of man does that?3. Feelings Tell this man what feelings this brings up for you. If there’s more than one, start with the strongest. Work with him until his stated feeling is congruent with his body language and intensity. Have the man anchor each feeling in his body by asking, Where in your body do you feel that?  You can optionally also say, If there’s a sound associated with this feeling, allow that to come out now.4a. Reflection Ask the Scribe to send a private Chat message to the Mirror with the judgments & feelings.  Have the Mirror speak those to the Man Working with this language: I hear you say that you feel... I hear you say that you judge... Did I get that right? Say to the Man Working: Now that you’ve heard your judgments and feelings, does this behavior remind you of someone else? If yes, ask these questions (if no, go to step 4b):What did you project onto <the person he’s clearing with>? Can you see that you projected  <person’s name>​ ​onto <the person he’s clearing with>? Are you willing to withdraw your projection so that you can begin to see <the person he’s clearing with> more clearly?Do that now symbolically.It’s acceptable if the Man Working can’t or won’t withdraw his projections now and in the next section.4b. Reflection Have the Mirror read back the judgments and feelings a second time. Say to the man working: Now that you’ve heard your judgments and feelings a second time, does this behavior remind you of something that you do or something that you believe you’re not allowed to do? If yes, ask these questions (if no, go to step 5):What did you project onto <the person he’s clearing with>?Can you see that you projected <that part of himself> ​onto <the person he’s clearing with>? Are you willing to withdraw your projection so that you can begin to see <the person he’s clearing with> more clearly?Do that now symbolically.5. Wants Ask:With this awareness, what do you want for yourself?What do you want in your relationship with this person, knowing that you may not get what you want?6. Closing Are you complete for now? If the man says, no, ask him what he needs to be complete.7. De-role If another man stood in for the person  who triggered the charge, have the Man Working say to the Mirror, You’re no longer holding the energy of [triggering person’s name], you’re my warrior brother [his name].Have the Mirror say to the Working Man, I’m no longer holding the energy of [triggering person’s name], I’m your warrior brother [his own name].

Magician round The goal of the magician round is to work on our personnel issues. Past, present, This is the work part or the processes. If I was to do work today, what would I work on? 1- 5, close your eyes, how much do you want to do the work. Do the work. My name is ___________ If I was to do work today,

Goal - Recognize our gold. - Now that I spent 2hrs here, how do I feel and how I did my energy shifted. Bring the man to recognize the valuable part of himself or accomplishment.

MKP USA COMMUNITY AND CIRCLE SAFETY POLICY MKP USA, its leaders and members are responsible for providing a reasonably safe and welcoming environment for members, employees, volunteers, visitors and participants. Safety is paramount in all MKP activities (I-Groups, Council meetings, trainings, community events and sponsored activities). MKP USA takes threats, harassment, and violence seriously. MKP USA encourages everyone to engage if they occur. The only exception is when men are involved in doing individual process work in a safe container to explore shadow as outlined in our trainings, PIT and I-Group Processes. If an individual is the source of a direct threat or perceived threat to persons or property ​it is the responsibility of all involved to: Immediately say “stop or safetyExplain there may be a perceived threat and ask for clarification - ask if there is intent to threaten, harass, or harm. Ask for all to agree to no threats, harassment or violence. Instruct anyone who will not agree to leave the activity. Ask anyone if they would like assistance in communicating feelings/judgement in an authentically respectful way.