Be who I want to be,
Build relationships &
Help others to grow in happiness

Be wise

Think before I speak or act

Study the Book of Mormon
and words of the prophets

Study out of the best resources

Ponder what God tells me as a result of studying

Apply God's teachings.

Meet my own needs

Be physically well

Get enough sleep

Drink enough water

Healthy eating

Be spiritually healthy
Have the right perspective

Be humble

Be grateful

Be forgiving

Be clean - repent now

Be prayerful

Be positive and optimistic -
Hope (no dispair or negativity)
(e.g. Have a song memorized
to replace negative thoughts with)

Be filled with love

Be happy - it's my choice

Be a responsible Husband

Do my part to provide her physical, emotional, spiritual, financial needs

Be a responsible Father

Hold them accountable

After school routine

Do my part to provide their physical, emotional, spiritual, financial needs

Protect them from evil and danger

Listen and learn about them

Voice mine and/or God's love for them

Frequently show my love and gratitude in meaningful ways

Represent Christ. Visit them if sick, Be an example and influence for good. Seek His will.

Help them be self-reliant, including getting them back on their feet. Includes offering specific ideas that may apply to their needs. Don't try to control them.

Help them to go to the temple (whether living or dead). Share the gospel (after they feel loved and respected)

Help them to know their own worth in God's eyes and that He is asking for their help.

Share about myself. Include my testimony and that I am a disciple of Christ.

Invite them to tell me about their needs that arise in the future.

Be Accepting

Look at others with an eye of faith

Don't judge

God doesn't expect me or anyone else to be perfect.
He wants our safe return.

Considert a list all of the burdens and
responsibilities on their shoulders

Respect their right to their own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions

Help them feel safe expressing themselves and doing things

Respond to concerns

Listen, putting my heart into it.

What part is reasonable?
(focus on that)

"get it" and voice that

"can I share my perspective?"

Move toward their view

Don't be defensive, instead: "will you please rephrase that? I'm starting to feel defensive."

Voice issues

Voice what I'm feeling,
why (observations only),
& what I need (complaint)

Say 3 positive things for each concern
(at least up to 6 positive things)

No criticism such as "always", "never", attacking

Never insult, degrade (contempt)

Be willing (not stubborn)

Try out suggestions

Share my emotions, hopes, dreams, wishes

Share my intent so that it is not taken
as criticism or added burden.

Own problems together

Support others in their goals

Spouse: Anxious concern
for her well-being

Notice what is going on with her and deduce what she needs

Let her know about decisions I'm making that affect her

For a task, do my part for her, then do mine.

"Pray for the love to make my spouse's joys my own"

Prioritize: spouse, children, (extended) family including ancestors, church calling, friends, ward members, enemies, acquaintances, strangers.