The Myth: "You can chose decide what you feel"
Ratio
When applied to human life, the idea that we just have to "choose" or "decide" to be different will lead into a problem since it is in conflict with human nature.
Human Nature
Circumstances under which the human soul grows/heals
This myth is similar to the Cognitive Bias
Examples
"It comes down to what Carl Jung said: I am not what has happened to me as a human being. I am what I choose to become." [50:05]
As valid as it sounds, it leaves us alone in the same state.