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动机-保护自尊
变色龙(Chemeleon)-变成他人希望的样子
向外在别人,向内在自己
人处理记忆时产生的by-product
可能带来maladaptive
energy-limited
internal
external(归因为天生,不会想要改变
you believe you can do sth(not all)
威胁来自family\friends(大于stranger, due to social comparison)
与confidence的差异:
confidence: normal,不需要受到别人的赞许
Narcissism:abnormal,一定要获得别人的赞同
dual attitude system
implicit attitude:可通过repeated practice改变
explicit attitude:更容易改变
小事件的impact更持久(温水煮青蛙)
大事件的impact更短
重大事件会立即激发人们的防御机制(免疫)
interdependent self
容易影响离婚率
independent self
looking-glass self.
我们觉得别人怎样看待我们是基于我们自己的subjective,尤其是nonverbal
Success(Ex:helping other people) increase self-esteem(involve self-worth)
self-esteem最大的照妖镜是两性关系
Self-concept influenced by others.
人倾向与相似的作比较(Ex:同年龄,同专业)
upward comparison: compared with people who are better than us will cause 苦恼。
downward comparison cause comfortable.
social identities(a sense of belonging) is a part of self identities
面具戴久了就会变成reality