Unit 4

sense of loss

disappointment and despair

mild or strong disappointment

intense despair

treated unfairly

annoyance and fury

feel mild or strong annoyance

intense fury

feeling of being blocked in our progress

dislike and loathing

mild or strong dislike

intense loathing

feeling that something is toxic

anxiety and terror

mild or strong anxiety

intense terror

feeling a threat of harm

peace and ecstasy

feel mild or strong peacefulness

intense ecstasy

feeling connection and/or sensory pleasure

leader to the rest of the pack

perfectionist, archivers, and reliable people

pressure to be perfect

achieve goals and rewards for great work ethic

Perfectionist
Achiever
Leader
Bossy
Responsible
Motivated
Conscientious
Controlling
Cautious
Reliable

first born

earn their place within the family and seek recognition

do not have a drive towards perfectionism

creative in their ways to earn attention

feel they do not get enough attention

sometimes are rebellious

Adaptable
Independant
People pleaser
Social
Rebellious
Feels left out
Peacemaker

youngest born

role of the baby of the family no matter the age

uncomplicated

have elder siblings to learn from

parents more lenient and nice towards the young one because they do not commit as many mistakes as their older siblings

self centered

always the most selfish

feel they deserve everything

catered and babied throughout their lives

everything handed to as a kid from my siblings and parents

outgoing

older figures to learn fro

older siblings helps excel your social skills

inherit what they believe is “funny and cool” boosting your social skills

Confident
Conscientious
Responsible
Perfectionist
Center of attention
Seek approval
Sensitive
Mature for their age
Leader

only child

only child holds roles similar to the eldest child

center of attention

seek approval

focus on the details and have a hard time relaxing

characteristics may interfere with personal happiness in life

often reaping great rewards professionally

Interacting with caregivers

2 months - start to smile at human faces

3 months - they will respond when adults talk

5 months - infants can distinguish between familiar and
unfamiliar people

Infants make their first relationships as they form an emotional attachment to carers

infants will play alongside other
children (parallel play)

emotionally attached and dependent on the adults that care

learn social roles and behaviour within their family context

family environment provide a ‘safe base’

co-operate with other children (co-operative play)

increasingly independent

friendships based on a sense of mutual trust

sense of self-worth influenced by other adolescents than by the family.

copy the styles of dress, beliefs, cultural values
and behaviours of their own network of friends.

transition to full independence
from the family

friendship networks continue to be very
important

marriage and parenthood represent major
social developments in their life

forties and fifties experience time and
family pressures that may limit their social activity

split their time between work, care of
parents, other family commitments and wider social activities

reduction in the amount of social
activity due to these pressures

older adults have more free time

increase
their involvement with close friends and family rather
than extend their network of social contacts

Socio-emotional selectivity theory

older adults’ social networks

emotional experience as we age

Social contacts limited to a few individuals who are of major
importance to us as we grow older

having less time to waste and they are more
risk-averse

do not want to involve themselves in painful social interactions

Childs attachment to parents

how well it’s fostered and cared for

influence on attachment to romantic partners

began in the 1950s

nature infants get by parents contribute to “attachment strategy”

positive self-images and positive perceptions of others

comfortable being alone and independent

correctly prioritize their relationships

draw clear boundaries and stick to them

best romantic partners, family members, and even friends

accepting rejection and moving on despite the pain

loyal and sacrificing when necessary

issue trusting people they’re close to but are trustworthy themselves

50% of the population are secure attachment types

nervous and stressed about their relationships

constant reassurance and affection

trouble being alone or single

often give into unhealthy or abusive relationships

trouble trusting people, even if they’re close to them

behaviour can be irrational, random, and overly-emotional

complain that everyone of the opposite sex are cold and heartless

Women are more likely to be anxious types than men

extremely independent, self-directed, and often uncomfortable with intimacy

very commited

experts at making their way out of any intimate situation

complain about feeling “crowded” or “suffocated” when people try to get close to them

hey always have an exit strategy

lifestyle constructed to avoid commitment or too much intimate contact

Men are more likely than women to be avoidant types

“fearful type”

afraid of intimacy and commitment, but they distrust and lash out emotionally at anyone who tries to get close to them

spend much of their time alone and miserable, or in abusive or dysfunctional relationships

a multitude of other emotional problems in other areas of their life (i.e., substance abuse, depression, etc.)

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