by Horace Nelson 15 years ago
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Outrospection
Association
Dissociation
Summoning
Releasing
Unorthodoxy
Resourcefulness
Ingenuity
Minimalism
Constructiveness
Realism
Critical Thinking
Skepticism
Logic
Rehearsal
Planning
Foresight
Self Correction
Flexibility
Unattachment
Introspection
Deliberateness
Awareness
Precision
Accuracy
Knowledge
Resolve
Uninhibitedness
Decisiveness
Lead subjects down a path toward a new reality which you've created. (Frame work, Mirroring).
Always push push push the interaction forward toward your end goal. (Forward stacking, kino escalation, compliance ladders).
Observe and exploit your environment and those within it to setup the most optimal conditions (i.e., location, positioning, seeding future sets, pawning).
Cut what doesn't work or isn't needed, and don't neglect what does or is out of fear or complacency.
Rehearse, practice, and run reconnoisance.
Every effort should directly support your goals. Even the smallest action is an opportunity.
Allow your body to move you mechanically through moments to which you are emotionally resistant.
Throw yourself into action without judgment or self-consciousness.
Act as-if you already are exactly what you want to be.
You simply pretend you have the behaviors of the person you want to be until, through repetition, you take on those behaviors. Consider every interaction to be a rehearsal.
Indulge in every moment without expectations, living for the experience rather than just the outcome.
Life is every second. Every situation is a chance to live deeply. Every interaction is a chance to indulge in, to the small degree that we can, another's experience. Every breath... every swallow of cheese cake... every touch... every heartache... is a testimony to life. Commit to the moment.
Negative notions and attitudes hold no emotional usefulness.
Emotions are our filters for deciding the value of things. You must defend your filters from contamination.
Passive:
Allow negativity to immediately slide right off of you, never sticking to you or sticking you in place. When receiving negativity, imagine that your mind is coated in a super-slick material. Imagine it is sealed in plastic wrap or armored in Teflon. The undesirable ideas of others just slip right off. They don't go into your mind. They don't go contaminate your emotions.
Active:
Build a fortress around your emotional center. Imagine that soldiers firing from the towers shoot down and kill negative ideas and behaviors as they try to penetrate the fortress walls. At all costs you repel their attacks, never allowing them to threaten your emotional center.
Accept all moments as the inevitable outcome of events. Be like the grass under the tree, accepting the leaves that fall as inevitable.
An event is the outcome of prior events. A chain reaction that started way before the initial event.
Everything that has happened before now is unchangeable. We can seek to manage the consequences of an event, but we can never change that it did in fact happen. Dwelling on an event changes nothing. It cannot be undone. Let go, and accept things outside of your control.
Separate your emotions from the object. Separate your emotions from the event.
Let go of impermanent things--the value and meaning you grant to them--including people and moments. The emotions we feel for things outside of us exist only in our heads. We project them. We project value and meaning onto the things we interact with, but then mistakenly believe that that value and meaning is a property of the things themselves. Value and meaning are not real. They are granted and can be revoked at any time. Our emotions extend from our minds like cables, tethering themselves to external things, such as people and moments. Separate your emotions from those things. To disengage all of your tethers to a thing or event is to achieve absolute clarity about it. Let go and see things and events for what they are: inherently meaningless, inherently valueless, and inherently impersonal.
