Be who I want to be,
Build relationships &
Help others to grow in happiness
Move closer to people
(being more at one)
Creates a family
Prioritize: spouse, children, (extended) family including ancestors, church calling, friends, ward members, enemies, acquaintances, strangers.
Spouse: Anxious concern
for her well-being
"True love is not so much a matter of romance as it is a matter of anxious concern for the well-being of one's companion." - Pres. Hinckley
"Pray for the love to make my spouse's joys my own"
For a task, do my part for her, then do mine.
Let her know about decisions I'm making that affect her
Notice what is going on with her and deduce what she needs
Support others in their goals
Own problems together
Share my emotions, hopes, dreams, wishes
Share my intent so that it is not taken
as criticism or added burden.
Try out suggestions
Be willing (not stubborn)
Be respectful
Creates property or land
Voice issues
Never insult, degrade (contempt)
No criticism such as "always", "never", attacking
Voice what I'm feeling,
why (observations only),
& what I need (complaint)
Say 3 positive things for each concern
(at least up to 6 positive things)
Respond to concerns
Don't be defensive, instead: "will you please rephrase that? I'm starting to feel defensive."
Move toward their view
"can I share my perspective?"
Listen, putting my heart into it.
"get it" and voice that
What part is reasonable?
(focus on that)
Be Accepting
Help them feel safe expressing themselves and doing things
Respect their right to their own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions
Don't judge
Considert a list all of the burdens and
responsibilities on their shoulders
God doesn't expect me or anyone else to be perfect.
He wants our safe return.
Look at others with an eye of faith
Be giving
Builds heaven on earth
Invite them to tell me about their needs that arise in the future.
Share about myself. Include my testimony and that I am a disciple of Christ.
Help them to know their own worth in God's eyes and that He is asking for their help.
Help them to go to the temple (whether living or dead). Share the gospel (after they feel loved and respected)
Help them be self-reliant, including getting them back on their feet. Includes offering specific ideas that may apply to their needs. Don't try to control them.
Represent Christ. Visit them if sick, Be an example and influence for good. Seek His will.
Frequently show my love and gratitude in meaningful ways
Voice mine and/or God's love for them
Listen and learn about them
Be responsible
Builds a house
Be a responsible Father
Protect them from evil and danger
Do my part to provide their physical, emotional, spiritual, financial needs
Hold them accountable
After school routine
Messes,
snack,
homework,
shower,
chores,
what you want to do
Be a responsible Husband
Do my part to provide her physical, emotional, spiritual, financial needs
Meet my own needs
Be spiritually healthy
Have the right perspective
Be happy - it's my choice
Key factors: Be grateful, be positive, be prayerful/meditate, be healthy/exercise, be giving.
Be filled with love
Be positive and optimistic -
Hope (no dispair or negativity)
(e.g. Have a song memorized
to replace negative thoughts with)
Be prayerful
Be clean - repent now
Be forgiving
Be grateful
Be humble
Be physically well
Healthy eating
Drink enough water
Get enough sleep
Be wise
Apply God's teachings.
Ponder what God tells me as a result of studying
Study out of the best resources
Study the Book of Mormon
and words of the prophets
Think before I speak or act
